Know what’s more important than eating right, exercising, and having lots of money? A relationship. A romantic one at that. Nothing is more emotionally satisfying and stress reducing than having a partner by your side to act as a soft landing after a very hard day. But if you don’t watch it, your relationship could be doomed – taking your health with it. Here’s the 10 red flags you need to watch out for to keep your relationship (and you) alive.
Being passive-aggressive is a lack of good communication skills and shows immaturity. Communication is absolutely imperative to a good, strong and healthy relationship. And being passive-aggressive undermines the integrity and quality of communication between a couple.
Sweating The Small Stuff
An argument over major deal-breaker issues such as kids and finances are necessary. But the way your partner picks up his socks, cleans the dishes, or chews loudly are not the end of the world in the grand scheme of things. Sweat the small stuff, and you’ll never get to realize the big dreams the two of you share.
Taking Them For Granted
Everyone likes to be appreciated. Take your partner for granted and never praising them for all that they do will only erode your bond in no time, and resentment will take its place instead.
Siding With Your Parents
It’s almost inevitable that your parents aren’t going to like many things about your partner. After all, you’re their son or daughter and it’s just natural for them to take your side. But they’re not your partner. Your partner is. So if you take their side over there’s, then, well, you might as well marry them.
Fighting Over Money
While we said before that arguments are common and often necessary, it needs to be mentioned that disagreements about money is the main reason why couples break-up. Unfortunately, couples within the same socio-economic status have a better chance of surviving than one’s with a large disparity between them. Something to consider when picking a partner for sure.
Fighting Over Chores
Unlike money, this is a relatively easy one to fix. All it takes is recognizing that one’s personality (which they can’t change), plays a lot into how they do, and how often they do chores. If you’re having disagreements over this, you may have to come up with some creative solutions to negotiate this problem.
Saying “I Told You So”
People make mistakes. And when it comes to your partner, you’ve got to give them the benefit of the doubt that they know they made a mistake and deep down, feel bad about it. So rubbing it in their face with an “I Told You So” only serves to make them feel doubly bad.
It’s one thing to lie to your partner if she asks if her dress makes her look fat. But get caught lying about serious stuff, and as relationship experts have discovered, instantly 80% of the trust is gone in perpetuity. That’s how damaging lying can be.
Want to know the fastest way to kill your relationship? Look down on your partner. This is also called contempt, and has been proven to actually make your looked down upon partner physically and emotionally sick. It’s by far the worst thing you can do to them.
It’s natural to become jealous of your partner’s flirtations or innocent interest in another person. Heck, according to science we’re not even really designed to couple up in the first place. So the instinct to find another is always there. But this awareness alone should be enough to curb any jealous tendencies you have that can seriously threaten your relationship.